It looks like I am going to be moving on soon as my husband and I are planning to divorce. I’m trying to see how to get through it with a minimum of damage to myself and my soon to be ex. He doesn’t listen to anything I say anymore, and it is depressing. Do you have any tips on how to keep our focus and get through this even though it is so hard to communicate?
Terry Says: I’ll leave this to Michele to answer because she is truly the communications expert. But the one thing I will point out is that the first thing the lawyers always say is “don’t talk to your spouse; let ME (attorney) do all the talking.” And that’s where the trouble starts. So if you can at least settle the financial issues between yourselves, and how you will handle custody, come to some basic agreement, it might avoid a very long fight. You don’t have to sign anything, of course, and your lawyer might point out that you deserve more (or tell him he should pay less!) — but at least you have the basis for a deal.
Thanks! I will contact the rep and buy a case.
I will provide them to all my female friends and
patients, and a few males to help them get out
of the Dark Ages and into the 21st Century!
Thank you! Thank you from the bottom of my heart and on behalf of my patients for writing this excellent book.
I will use this for my private practice (Counseling Psychology). I will provide them to all my female friends and patients, and a few males to help them get out of the Dark Ages and into the 21st Century!
If I can purchase bulk at a 50% discount, please advise.
What constitutes duress sufficient to invalidate a prenuptial agreement? You say the “deal you make is the deal you take” in your book, but there is a high profile case in Illinois right now making headlines. The wife of a very wealthy man says she was coerced into signing a deal just before the ceremony. It looks like she will break the deal and get a lot of money!
If I agree to a prenup and my circumstances change — ie if I lose my job, but have promised to pay a certain amount of support — can that be changed despite the prenup?
I’ve been hearing a lot of stories about prenups — a very wealthy couple in Chicago is divorcing and she is contesting what seems like a horrible prenup. She should have known better, as she was a “money pro.” You must have read about this! But your books says “signing under duress” is not a way to invalidate a prenup.
My daughter has been dating steadily and is considering marrying or possibly living with her boyfriend. She is near college graduation with great work prospects, while he has not finished school and is not working. When I brought up the subject of a financial agreement, he walked away and she gave me sad eyes. What do I do?
I’m 32. A couple years ago I purchased a timeshare and now I feel it was a really bad decision cause I haven’t used it. When I did purchase it my boyfriend at the time was supposed to pay half but we are currently not together and I’ve been making the payments on my own since he hasn’t given me money for it. Part of me wants to stop paying for it, but I’m afraid of ruining my credit. I’ve always paid my bills on time and what I’m wondering is if I did stop paying for it how much would it affect my credit? I’m just really not liking the fact I’m paying for something that I’m not using it seems like a waste. I even talked to the people that sold me the time share but they said it needs to be paid off in order to sell it. Any advise that you may have would be great.
My boyfriend spends ALL his money. I mean all of it! He has a good job – but he buys expensive clothes, and insists we go to the “best” restaurants, and he buys me presents. My friends say I shouldn’t complain and that I should be happy – but it really worries me. What do you think?
I have been living with a man 8 years older (65) than myself without an agreement. His plans are to retire next April and needs to relocate to his house up north (as he is underwater with it) and sell the place here. He would like me to move with him however I still need to work as no provisions have been made to the contrary – how should I handle? The job market/wages are much lower if I were to move and work. If all else fails I suppose I could simply visit on weekends as he would only be three hours away. What are your thoughts?